Showing posts with label Not giving up. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Not giving up. Show all posts

Monday, June 22, 2020

Nine New Steps in the Right Direction

Beloved Pooh

As hard as he tried, English author, A. A. Milne, never outlived his most famous children’s book of 1926, Winnie the Pooh. He genuinely wanted to write other genres such as mysteries, drama, and poetry—which he did several--but once the Pooh stories arrived, that was what Milne was forever known for afterward.

In 2003, Winnie the Pooh was listed in the UK at number seven on the BBC's poll of the “best-loved novels" of all time. Three years later, Winnie the Pooh received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, marking the 80th birthday of Milne's creation. And many of our children grew up going to sleep with a Pooh bear right beside him/her!

This endearing story of A. A. Milne goes to show that we are often known for our reputation, whether good or bad, and it can follow us around for decades. Either way, if we never give up, amazing things can happen in our lives. Just remember a quote from Milne, “You’re braver than you believe and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”    

Not Giving Up!
We have gone through what seems like a never-ending drama ourselves. Maybe it is still very fresh in our minds, or some of us are still navigating the first year or two after a break-up, and others are well on their way to a new destination. One thing is clear: we are all survivors! 

Whichever season we are currently living in, not giving up must be part of our daily script. Why? Well, that's a good question, so think about this one, what would I be doing instead of “not giving up?”

Time for coffee!
Yes, sometimes, we don't even want to drag ourselves out of bed in the morning. It's too warm and cozy. It's safe and secure. We don't have to get dressed. And we could turn our phones off, so no one bothers us. That's understandable; we've all been there, but who would get the coffee/tea? (Smile break).  

Remember the script: we are not giving up! We've made it this far, so we already know hiding under the covers does not match up with our new role as a survivor. And the more we practice our part, the better we become and the further we go.

A Better Way to Enjoy Life
Let's jump into the middle here. For whatever reason--divorce, the death of our spouse, or single mom status--we are on our own now. It still feels strange and will always feel different. But now, we must figure out which path to take that will create the absolute best life we can manage. 

Most likely, a new routine would be extremely helpful to our well-being at this point. Trying to do everything the way it always was as a couple creates a lot of stress. Consider some of these fun and encouraging stress-busters and then add your own to the list. 

Nine New Steps in the Right Direction  
  • Choose a new path for your daily walk and smell the iris.
  • Make stir-fry instead of the usual and bland broccoli dish.
  • Do the laundry on Thursdays instead of Mondays.
  • Change the furniture around and buy new pillows.
  • Take a class in flower arranging or horticulture.
  • Share lunch with a single neighbor.
  • Sleep in the middle of the bed (a favorite).
  • Attend the late church service instead of the early one. 
  • Challenge yourself and move to a new place/town/state.


Lost and Found
The road we are on right now will lead somewhere that's for sure. But, where? We have a choice which way to go, but we need a Guide to get us to the right destination because it is easy to get lost and never get anywhere. Then years later we will wonder what happened and why we are still in a rut. The Good News is we have the perfect One to help us and his plan is free of charge! The "ticket" is Prayer and it can be used over and over and over. Find yours today in God's book, the Holy Bible.      

"Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow" (Psalm 25:4 NLT).

Monday, March 18, 2019

9 Breakthrough Routines for Your New Life

Film Awards
About three weeks ago, the 91st Academy Awards ceremony (better known as the Oscars) was presented amid all the gala, glitz, and glamour one could stand. It's not something all of us cared to watch in its entirety, but if we are movie-goers of any kind, our interest in the list of winners might have prompted us to spend maybe a minute or two on the results. 

We bring this up because every now and then when giving their acceptance speech, someone at the Oscars has an ounce of practical wisdom worthy of notice. This year we caught the following quote: "It's not about winning, it's about not giving up!" Surprisingly, this came out of the mouth of singer and actress Lady Gaga. We were shocked. But we are not here to talk about the stars. We are more interested in you, fellow sisters.

Not Giving Up!
We have gone through a massive drama ourselves. Maybe it is still very fresh in our minds, or some of us are still navigating the first year or two after a break-up, and others are well on their way to a new destination. One thing is clear: we are all survivors! 

Whichever scene we are currently living in, not giving up must be part of our daily script. Why? you ask. Well, that's a good question, so pose this to yourself: what would I be doing instead?

Yes, sometimes, we don't even want to drag ourselves out of bed in the morning. It's too warm and cozy. It's safe. We don't have to get dressed. And we could turn our phones off, so no one bothers us. That's understandable; we've all been there, but who would get the coffee? (Smile break).  

Remember the script: we are not giving up! We've made it this far, so we already know hiding under the covers does not match up with our new role as a survivor. And the more we practice our part, the better we become and the further we go.

Taking the Plunge
Enjoy the Lilacs
Let's jump into the middle here. For whatever reason--divorce, the death of our spouse, or single mom status--we are on our own now. It still feels strange and will always feel different. But now, we must figure out which path to take that will create the very best life we can manage. 

Most likely, a new routine would be very helpful to our well-being at this point. Trying to do everything the way it always was as a couple creates a lot of stress. Consider some of these fun and encouraging stress-busters and then add your own to the list. 

9 Breakthrough Routines for Your New Life  
Choose a new path for your daily walk and smell the lilacs.
Make scrambled eggs instead of the usual sunny side up.
Wash clothes on Thursdays instead of Mondays.
Change the furniture around and buy new pillows.
Take a class in flower arranging or horticulture.
Share lunch with a single neighbor.
Sleep in the middle of the bed (my favorite).
Attend the late church service instead of the early one. 
Challenge yourself and move to a new place/town/state.

Lost and Found
The road we are on right now will lead somewhere that's for sure. But, where? We have a choice which way to go, but we need a Guide to get us to the right destination because it is easy to get lost and never get anywhere. Then years later we will wonder what happened and why we are in a rut. The Good News is we have the perfect One to help us and He is free of charge! The "ticket" is Prayer and it can be used over and over and over. Find yours today in God's book, the Holy Bible.      

"Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow" (Psalm 25:4 NLT).

Friday, November 4, 2016

How to Become a Queen

Patiently waiting
Dogs and cats are some of the most patient creatures on earth. If trained right, they will wait for their food or to go for a walk. They will wait all day long for their master to return home. They may not enjoy it, but they never, ever give up! They don't need a box of tissues, either, to dry all the tears. Oh, no, they go and play with their toys or look for bugs to eat or, o.k., tear up the couch maybe. But give up? Never. It's probably why we like to have them around. They are optimistic and hopeful!

Beating on a Brick Wall
We could actually learn something from our pets. Too many times, we humans use excuses to not get better, get over, get out, or get going. It's just seems a lot easier to give up and stop trying. Maybe we should try to write down what is so great about giving up and losing hope. The page would most certainly be blank because there is nothing good about it. Or at least nothing we would want to admit.

If you have ever had the fortune to buy a Chanel suit, dress, bag, or perfume, you probably know Coco Chanel was a designer. But she didn't just click her red shoes, open her eyes and she was famous by any means. Coco once said something very insightful on her way up to success: 

“Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” 

In other words, if something--our life, job, home, finances, whatever--isn't working, don't give up! Try something different. Don't be discouraged, just refuse to fail! It's often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock. Don't misunderstand. We all have our "down" moments or seasons, even, to get through. All I'm saying is something a therapist asked, "Why are you banging your head against a brick wall?" A life-changing question, indeed!

The Making of a Queen
A more familiar story is the one of Esther, a beautiful, young Jewish woman who became a Queen. She also did not have a perfect life, nor an easy one. Esther was not born with a "silver spoon" in her mouth. She was an orphan until her cousin adopted her. After she was crowned the Queen and wife of the King of Persia (at his insistence), she went on to fight for her people to become free. It was a long and difficult, but successful, battle. Her secret? Esther never gave up! [Read her entire story in the Book of Esther in the Bible]. And the outcome was all planned by God. He is always on our side. Always.*

I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

*For an amazing, fictional version of the story of Esther, see the book by Kate Breslin, For Such a Time.