Pick a favorite means of comfort. For many it is the luxurious, fragrant, deep warm water of a bath to soak in for hours, especially after a stressful day. Or as the candy companies already know, melting-in-the-mouth chocolate is a definite favorite. Maybe it’s a bowl of popcorn. A cozy bed with lots of blankets and clean sheets in a cool room can put some into deep, relaxing sleep. To make it even better with complete solitude and silence, try ear plugs and a sleep mask--heavenly!
There are thousands of ways to feel comfort. Some good: think snuggling with a good book. Some are detrimental to our health: excesses of any kind. As single-again women, sometimes it's difficult to find the comfort and affection we need and long for on a regular basis. So what positive things can we do to correct this situation?
Different Is Good
First, let's stop and remember, we have a brand new life now. It will not be the same as in the past. And that's not always a bad thing, just a different thing. It's been said that many women are lonelier within their marriages than when they divorce. Is that true? Yes, there is a definite difference between being lonely and being alone. One is positive and one is negative. We know which one is which.
So let's get creative and find what will best make us comfortable. Start with the home. Does it need an uplifting fun color on the walls of some rooms? How about in the bedroom? It's usually suggested to stick with calm, neutral colors or pastels, especially blue. Definitely not bright eye-blinding colors unless we want to stay up all night with the owls.
The furniture could be the next thing. Like a deep comfy sofa that "hugs" us. Yes, yes, we know there are those who love leather. But practically speaking here about comfort and coziness, that choice seems to be cold in the winter and sweaty hot in the summer. That would be torture for some, but let’s smile, it's all in our individual choices and that’s okay. Just have fun with it all! Get some good ideas by clicking on this link:
Common Sense and Hugs
Aside from all that revamping of our surroundings (which is important to our general well-being), how about the actual physical side? Of course, if we choose, there may be dating possibilities on the horizon, but that discussion is best left to a professional psychologist. Except to simply say, stay safe. No one will take care of us like ourselves. We are precious in God's sight and He loves us. He also gave us common sense, so let’s just make a pact to use that in large quantities.
The foundation for a good life is to surround ourselves with friends and family. People who support our decisions and are not stingy with hugs. Friends who will be there when we are having a bad night to hold our hand while we get used to our fabulous new journey. And if there are children still in the house, just hug them. They will hug back for sure. They will feel loved as much as we do.
One thing is for absolute certain. The Bible says God is there to hold our hand anytime we need it; day or night! That's called Comfort with a capital "C." Hang tight, there’s no tricks or catches. Just ask Him and He will reach out with a very strong hand for as long as we need it.
Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.
Psalm 37:24
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