A five-year old boy asked his grandma, “Why do bad kids at school always want to be bullies?” The grandma said, “They want to be the boss and take over.” The boy says, “Then why don’t they become moms?” Kids say the most darling and funny things!
The month of May we celebrate moms because someone once said, “Once a mom, always a mom” which is so very true. But hang in with us as there will be plenty of topics for those who have not spent sleepless nights with a crying baby or had to leave work in the middle of a project when the school principal calls with yet another incident. Our hearts can still have plenty of love for all children we come into contact.
Steps and Stages
The stages we go through with momhood will forever be in our minds. Who does not have one or even two baby books to mark every occasion with a wisp of hair or the first tooth. Plenty of photos at birthday parties, holidays, and everyday outings at the playground.
Of course, we can all understand that with the first baby (after the initial shock of becoming a mom) we can find time to get the ideal photo shoot, plan the perfect birthday party, and attend all the mom/baby activities we can stand. But this becomes more and more difficult as we have the second, third, or even fourth child. Time just melts away and before we know it, our child is graduating college.
How do other moms make it look so easy? There are surely numerous and individual ways we can become the best parent we can be. It is advisable to search what the experts say about parenting and to stay informed on the subject of parenting. It is nearly impossible to do this alone; we need others!
Note: Because this blog author is not an expert or a parenting professional, we will simply share some of the best sources on parenting. These are provided in the case you wish to look further in your own search and share with other moms, too.
What is the definition of a “good” parent?
Webmd.com provides a basic explanation to consider:
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“Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation, and cheerfulness, says Steinberg. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and desire to achieve. It helps protect children from developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, anti-social behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse.”
Thinking about all that can be overwhelming! Then again, if we feel we need to transform or readjust what we are already doing, it may challenge us to bigger and better things. There is always room for improvement in the parenting circle.
Parents magazine has another viewpoint:
“The key to raising a well-rounded child is to establish a solid support system at home so that she grows up satisfied with her achievements and ambitions. "The goal as a parent is to help your child feel competent and confident, and to help her develop a sense of passion and purpose," says Susan Stiffelman, MFT, an educational therapist and author of Parenting Without Power Struggles. It's the education that happens before she sets foot into school that is crucial in bringing up such a child.” [Of course, this refers to both boys and girls.]
Organizations to help moms: [CLICK on Link]
No doubt about it, being a mom is extremely hard! No one knows that better than another mom. Getting connected with a group for moms (usually through your local church) is one of the best things you can do as a mom. So, don’t be shy. They are waiting for you!
His Favorite Thing
One of the best examples of love and kindness towards children was demonstrated by Jesus Himself. True, He definitely was not a mom! But because He is God, He is a Father. Our heavenly Father. So He knows what you are feeling when you wonder if you are doing all you can for your child. He can be your very best Friend in your most important role. Be sure to include Him in all your ways and days!
One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could lay his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.
But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children.” And he placed his hands on their heads and blessed them before he left. Matthew 19:13-14 (NLT)
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