Who Is Your Architect?

The oldest house in America, built in the year 1637 in Massachusetts, still stands after eight generations of families. What amazing construction and solid foundation it obviously had from the beginning, and, there wasn’t even any Home Depot in those days! The owner (architect) surely required the workers (builders) to listen to his direction and wise expertise. The result still remains!

Attempting to build our own haven--our safety zone--without the correct tools, materials, and know-how will quickly shake our foundation to the core. We want our new life to stand on its own for a very long time. Like a home built on solid rock. We want to do all we can to protect and secure a better future.  

Blueprint Examiner

Putting some effort into finding out what went wrong in our past, will prevent us from repeating the same mistakes. It will give us insight into how to readjust and improve our thinking and actions in any new relationship. This is not a “blame and shame” game. There is no room for that here. This is an honest look at the blueprint that wasn’t right for us from the beginning.

We start by asking ourselves some hard, but important questions. We are all different women with unique situations. So, the answers must come from our own open, frank, and sincere observation of ourselves. Without spending time finding the answers to these questions, the “new” home will mysteriously feel just like the “old” home.

• Have I really given myself enough time to heal?
• What problems haven’t been resolved?
• What unmet personal goals do I need to work on?
• Am I ready yet for another relationship?
• How long ago did I meet this new man?
• Have I spent family dinners, holidays, and get-togethers with him?
• Do we have the same faith and beliefs?
• Have I prayed about discernment in this relationship?
• Have I seen him at his best, as well as worse?
• If there are children, do we get along with each others’ children?
• Is there affection on both sides?

These are by no means all the issues to consider when approaching another marriage in the future. We are smart women and now know what we need in a relationship, and what we don’t. How we get the relationship God intends for us will require caution, personal examination, and daily conversation with God.    

Get the Best Architect

God wisely advises us to listen to Him and follow His direction. He asks this of us so that we will be protected under His loving hand. . .so that we will have adequate shelter from the storms of life that threaten to destroy us.

The best blueprint for our home on earth is recorded in the pages between Genesis through Revelation in the Bible. Be sure to check this Answer Book.          

Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Matthew 7:24