One of the things most treasured, especially during Christmas, is Peace. It is seen on so many Christmas cards we send, spoken in church services, displayed in stores, and printed on wrapping paper. It is something the entire world wants. But it shouldn't just be at this time of year that we seek and enjoy peace. It is important to our well being and happiness all during the year. It continually exhibits the quality of life so many have missed.
Where exactly is peace found?
All people have to work hard at creating peace in their lives. Single-again women may find it even more difficult in the beginning, but it can be done, so we can’t give up! The rewards are worth it. Let's consider some practical ways to start building our best life now.
- Just like the support groups repeat at each meeting, it's important to take one step at a time. Rushing through this period in our lives will make for a shaky foundation. Start with whatever is most important right this moment. Is it a job? A better or more appropriate place to live? A new hobby? Finding new friends? Tackling one victory at a time will not be so overwhelming.
- Find the positives every day. Go forward, not backwards. Dwelling on all the mess of the past and how hard it is to get out of bed, will not get us anywhere. Before snuggling under the nightly covers, make a small “To-Do” list. Set the alarm, pour the coffee, get moving. If it helps, we can turn on happy music when cleaning the house. There are a million ways to make this happen. Now, things are looking up!
- Build a community of people to depend on. A new single-again life requires single-again friends to do things with and to call on when we need help. They have been in our shoes. They know how to do this thing called "living." Welcome their invitations to go places or to join a club and find a new hobby.
- Mistakes happen. Learn from them or else we risk repeating them and, who wants that? Get on our computers and read up on how to build a positive lives. Try several ways to make this happen. Our confidence will soar!
- No fantasies! They aren't real and will only cause us frustration. If having a large mansion isn't in the budget right now, find something that is beautiful and that we can be proud of showing. Simple is good. Anyway, it's trendy to go "minimalist" in the decorating arena. $250 jeans are not reasonable; only shop the "sale" racks (or better yet, discount stores) for clothes.
- Know that true and lasting peace only comes from God. His intervention in our lives will make everything right in our world. Without Him, difficulties will continue to pile onto each other and we will get lost again. He's there. He has the answers. Let’s not leave Him out of our plans.
Icing on the cake: Patience
None of the above tips will work without Patience as a companion. Take a breath and remember these two truths:
Challenges - we grow and mature through the "ugly stuff" in our lives. Yes, there is a reason for everything we experience; no one is exempt. Even a rose has thorns! We can find our purpose for the thorns in our sides, if only we show a little tenacity and patience. We can do this!
Attitudes - how we react and treat others with patience will amaze them. Break the mold and be willing to display the kind and loving woman inside. It's really contagious!
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace patience. . .Galatians 5:22
If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days. . .Search for peace, and work to maintain it. 1 Peter 3:10-11
If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days. . .Search for peace, and work to maintain it. 1 Peter 3:10-11
I know all the things you do. I have seen your hard work and your patient endurance. Rev 2:2a
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