Where is your most beautiful landscape?
A famous TV doctor often repeats, "You can't change what you don't acknowledge." We are here to gently say that we understand it is excruciatingly difficult to speak of faithfulness and trust after the collision we went through in our past relationship. Those are values we rather totally ignore now and not deal with ever.
Unfaithfulness hurts, yes. Devotion and dependability were the keys we counted on to hold things together and those keys broke in the lock of our love. They were supposed to be as solid as iron. Keys we never needed to replace. And then they failed to work and here we are alone. Amazingly, we have found the strength to make it this far, so we can continue.
For our nurturing and growth, let's strive to bypass this obstacle and acknowledge what is right in front of us. No one walks down the aisle expecting anything less than a marital bond that exhibits true and constant support and loyalty. Promises kept. Trust deserving. It is how we imagine our life will blossom. And then it doesn't sprout and grow. Every couple is different and unique; the answers to why the bond didn't work are as numerous as the stars. It requires us to seek professional help to understand the kaleidoscope of two people living as one.
But wait! As long as we are willing, and truly want to improve the landscape of our lives, we can explore where our past has taken us and how to advance our future, which is all that is important at this point.
Danger! Four-Way Intersection Ahead
We have arrived at the intersection of life where many choices await us. The road is wide open, but we may be stalled and not know which direction to go. So many things to think about and decide because we don’t want to repeat the past. Panic wants to take control of the wheel but we are going to breathe deeply first.
LEFT. Turn this way and we slam right into Fear. It holds us back from merging onto the highway of life. We know the feeling. It keeps us in bed all day. It causes us to avoid people. It justifies our addictions. We stagnate, unable to move forward. Our engine just stops.
BEHIND. Turn back and we sink into Depression. The past becomes our present. Our energy completely disappears as our spirits fall. The "blues" become our only companion. We wallow in melancholy, unable to do anything about our unhappiness. Our heart is sick and weighed down. It's an ugly place.
RIGHT. Opposite the left is a turn that leads us into a newfound Trust in ourselves and others. We discover new truths and beliefs in how we can better handle life. Possibilities shine bright. We make an effort to connect with people who are encouraging and uplifting and eliminate any negativity that drags us down. Here we find our strength and resilience. We believe in our ability to thrive.
STRAIGHT AHEAD. We struggled through the storm and arrived in one piece at a place called Faith. We suddenly know something, or rather Someone, is waiting for us with open arms. Darkness turns to light, just as when we open the blinds and curtains to let the sun into a room. Happiness appears and introduces us to its twin, Joy. We learn how to recognize those who are trustworthy, loyal, and true. We become optimistic about our future.
Keeping Our Eyes Open
It is unsafe and impossible to drive with blindfolds on our eyes. We will crash into things! And we will never get where we are going. This journey we are traveling will have its share of bumps and turns. But we will hang on and move right on past all the unpleasant potholes. This time, we know which turn to take when we get to the intersection!
Tip of the Day
On every road, we need a Guide, but not just anyone. Someone who IS the definition of true Faithfulness and Trust. We can find Him on that Straight Ahead road. That place where God never gives up on us. Never. He promises He won't and can be trusted to keep His promise. He is faithful in every way and at all times. He has a rare unconditional love for us. He is the One we have been looking for all along.
“Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! His faithful love endures forever” (Psalm 107:1 NLT).
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