Tuesday, October 21, 2025

What is Your Message?

Keep adding to your bucket!


You may have heard about this before, but just in case, here's a review. In 2007 Hollywood produced the movie, The Bucket List, which was all at once humorous and insightful. Complete strangers asked themselves if they had accomplished all they wanted to in life before it was too late. They decided they needed a list of things to do that they had never gotten around to doing. This whole concept became very popular for many of us!

Now that we are on the way to reinventing our lives exactly the way we want, we encourage you to start a list of your own. It can be serious, silly, or simple. It might be something you've done before but not in a very long time. Or it might be daring and adventurous (safety first though!). These might seem ridiculous to family and friends. But all that counts is this list is real and important to you--no one else. While you are thinking, let's have some fun.  

Top 9 FSM Bucket Gems

1. Dress up and go out on a Wednesday afternoon for no particular reason.
2. Pick pumpkins at a local family farm. 
3. Paint a piece of furniture poppy pink (try chalk paint, it's easy!)
4. Put on some dance music when it's too quiet.
5. Send yourself flowers.
6. Find two other single-again friends and take a class together.
7. Sleep in the middle of the bed.
8. Eat dessert first before a meal.
9. Save up and buy a beautiful gemstone ring on Valentine's Day.

There are a million more things you can do. Keep thinking and you could create categories of bucket lists for yourself: a Bucket List for. . . home, career, health, travel, kids, budget, adventure, etc etc. You've got the idea. Keep the momentum going! 

Tip of the Day
Speaking of lists we need to get going, a very important one not to skip would be a journal-type list (that means you start it and then keep it going!) Although this one is private and confidential, you'll see it's necessary and meaningful to our lives. 

How many of us wish we could be closer to having a relationship with God? Maybe we have not ever asked the Lord into our lives. Or maybe we have asked Him, but then never continued the journey with Him.

So we need a relationship bucket list as a starting point. This would be a continuous journal entry to add items daily, or weekly, or when ever you need to speak to Him. Here's three items to get started

1. If I haven't already, I need Jesus in my life. Just ask Him.
2. I need a Christian Bible to find out what God wants for me. 
3. We have all sinned, so now is the time to ask Jesus for forgiveness.

For "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved" (Romans 10:13 NLT).

"If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9 NLT).

 

Tuesday, October 14, 2025

Smiles Are Contagious, Be A Carrier

Happiness comes to everyone eventually!


We can really only laugh about life. That unavoidable season we love to hate is called aging. And yes, it's a real eye-opener when we realize we're old enough for our savings to start paying off!

Survival, mid-life or otherwise, will only come with a good measure of laughter! We all know that no one on this planet has yet been able to stop time, banish the wrinkles, and lift enough skin to make us look 23 again. But people keep trying! 

So, the better choice is to have a sense of humor, because it happens to everyone eventually.

Enjoy a smile with these unexpected blessings about maturity:
1. We can have "lights out" before our college kids even leave on a date.
2. Karaoke is our favorite music with words.
3. We can eat breakfast for dinner and lunch for breakfast.
4. Our grandkids are shocked if we know the identity of One Direction.
5. A good party begins at 7pm and ends at 10pm.

See how many more you can add to this fun list!

It wasn't so long ago that age was honored as one who had gained wisdom through life experiences. Of course, we didn't reach each decade without ever knowing anything, regardless of what the Post-Millennial generation, aka iGeneration, thinks (apparently, those are necessary descriptions since we ran out of the alphabet with the X, Y, and Z Generations). You're still smiling, right?

Tip of the Day

What do you imagine God thinks about all this self-admiration? Quite a lot, matter of fact. One only needs to read the Old Testament to see that vanity isn't just a modern problem. It began way, way back in the Garden of Eden and continued right along into the New Testament and has now caught up to this century.

Among God's descriptions of a wise person, He uses the words humble and understanding, one who invites counsel, and one who fears (respects) the Lord. He is serious about this aging thing!

No matter what our age, from 20s to 40s to 60s and beyond, we can welcome the fact that we belong to Him who IS wisdom. The good news: we can work towards that beautiful goal and help each other along the way, sisters! Heaven waits.

"Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God" 1 Peter 3:3-4 NLT
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Tuesday, October 7, 2025

What Makes You Comfortable?

Lavendar = Comfort


What is your favorite means of comfort? For many, it is the luxurious, fragrant, deep, warm water of a bath to soak in for hours, especially after a stressful day. A cozy bed with lots of blankets and clean sheets in a cool room can put some (uh-hum, I think I qualify) into deep, relaxing sleep.

To make it even better, my earplugs and a sleep mask are heavenly! Or as the candy companies already know, chocolate is a definite favorite, melting in our mouths. Ice cream too! There are thousands of ways to feel comfort. Some are good and some are detrimental to our health.

As single-again women, sometimes it's difficult to find the comfort and affection we need and long for regularly. So what positive things can we do about it? First, let's stop and remember, we have a brand new life now. It will not be the same as in the past. And that's not always a bad thing, ladies! It's been said that many women are lonelier within their marriages than when they divorce. Huh? Yes, there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. One is positive and one is negative. You know which one is which.

So let's get creative and find what will make us comfortable. Start with our home. Does it need an uplifting, fun color on the walls of some rooms? How about in your bedroom? It's usually suggested to stick with calm, neutral colors or pastels, especially blue. Definitely not bright eye-blinding colors unless you want to stay up all night with the owls. The furniture could be the next thing. Like a deep, comfy sofa that "hugs" you. Yes, yes, I know there are those of you who love leather. I would have to decline on that choice as it is cold in the winter and sweaty hot in the summer. Torture in my book, but heh, smile, it's your choice. Have fun with it all!

Tip of the Day

Aside from all that revamping of your surroundings, which is important, how about the actual physical side? Of course, if you choose, there is dating on the horizon, but I won't get into that since I am definitely not a psychologist. Except to say simply, take care of yourself. You are precious in God's sight, and He loves you. You know what I mean.

I am suggesting you surround yourself with friends and family. People who support your decisions and are not stingy with hugs. Friends who will be there when you are having a bad night to hold your hand while you get used to your fabulous new journey. And if you have children still in the house, you hug them. They will hug back for sure. They will feel loved as much as you.

One thing is for absolute certain. The Bible says God is there to hold your hand anytime you need it; day or night! That's called Comfort with a capital "C." Hang tight, dear one, ask Him and He will reach you with a very strong hand for as long as you need it.

"Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand".
(Psalm 37:24 NLT)

Tuesday, September 30, 2025

Choosing Our Path

Ready to cycle? Or how about a scooter?


We have just about made it through another year. So while we wait, we can start dreaming about where we want to go in the coming year. No serious plans right now--just a fun peek into the future.

Wheels of any kind--bicycles, motorcycles, scooters, Ferris wheels, roller skates, potters' wheels, and all those planes, trains, and automobiles--have one thing in common and one purpose: momentum. Once they start moving, it's very hard to get them to stop. Sort of like ourselves?

Maybe we didn't choose this life path, and we still feel a little shaky, but our single-again lives are moving whether we want them to or not. The questions are which direction, how fast, and who is at the wheel? If 10mph was the speed we couldn't get past this year, then it's time to step on the gas a bit.

Direction
Where do we want to go in the first place? The wheels are moving, so this is no time to let go! Surely there are things we really want to do with our lives. Maybe a new job that will fit our gifts and talents. It could be finding a better place to live or even moving to a town/city we have always loved. Anything is possible! Just ask God.

Speed
Is the time now? Or will it take six months to prepare? We may need to map out how fast we can get to our dream place. We could even take a vacation to that new town and check out a place to live and a job. "Two birds with one stone" we might say!

Control
"It's never too late to be what you might have been". (T. S. Eliot, American Poet)

Maybe we begin a new season by jotting down plans in a journal. When we see it on paper, it becomes real. Attainable. Possible. We might register for that upcoming class. We can ask for that job promotion. Now is the time to stick our necks out for our dreams once and for all. We don't look back.

Tip of the Day
Being single-again, we are responsible for not only ourselves, but our children too, if we have them. No one else is going to do this for us (nor would we want them to). Only when we rely on God and try, are we going to arrive at a point of accomplishment which builds our confidence so we can do even more.

God is watching. He knows where we are going and is ready to help us at any time. Just ask. 

"Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think" (Ephesians 3:20 NLT).




Tuesday, September 23, 2025

Consistent Steps Will Get You There


It's a must. We have to take care of ourselves now more than ever. That's if we don't want to see a "hag" in the mirror one morning and scare ourselves half to death. It's especially important if we have children at home yet to take care of. Otherwise, we may find them eating from the family pet's food bowl! 


Here's the question: how do we gain the strength we lost while dealing with re-inventing our lives? Being physically exhausted and emotionally fatigued prevents us from living to our fullest capacity. And it only lines the pockets of our doctors (sorry, physicians, aren't you always telling us "Take care, now" as we go out the door?)

Not feeling our very best blocks us from doing what we need and want to do to survive. Don't you have some new plans now for yourself? I mean, think about it, you don't want to repeat what you went through in the past, do you? Of course not, because all the dreams you had while still married can now be fulfilled to perfection--no one is holding you back. Yeah, world! I can do this.    

Feeling down all the time and not caring to get back up also keeps us from creating the abundant joy we crave. I'm not saying it all needs to be done at once. Being drained requires that we take small and specific, but consistent, steps on the road to recovery. 

We can help no one else until we take care of our physical selves. This is not a selfish thing! We need the energy to get to tomorrow. We’ve heard it before--participate in a good nutrition plan, regular exercise, and even fun and exciting ways to pamper ourselves. Those are the first building blocks to physical and emotional health. The way in which we do it, or not (I hate exercise but love the pampering), will be different for each one of us. And at a different pace. Whatever you feel you can do at the moment is the right step for you. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Just keep the momentum going!  

Tip of the Day
Our spiritual well-being is an even more important connection to wholeness. Without this support, nothing else in our life will work properly. No worries, though, because the Lord provides the necessary solid rock to grab onto when we feel we will fall. He is the Rock, solid as can be. Remember that a home built on sand will not stand. 

He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will never be shaken (Psalm 62:2 NLT). 




Tuesday, September 16, 2025

TGIT



Did you guess the title of this episode? Nope! This isn't a message about any kind of drugs. This is going to be a TGIT kind of fun!

Since the weekend will be here before we know it, let's start thinking about how much enjoyment we are getting out of life right now. We already know spending day after day in front of a TV is not healthy (it eats up brain cells) and is definitely discouraging.

We have the freedom now; what can we do to increase our purpose and fun? How do we meet new friends? Where is our creativity? Are we setting a good example for our kids and other single friends, and family?

The key? Finding a life-hobby is the best answer to so many dilemmas. If you are feeling bored, depressed, lonely, sad, lacking friends (of either gender), or experiencing fatigue, the solution is to get moving and stay engaged with life! It's simply up to you. It only takes 21 days to create a new habit. You can do this!

Grab a notebook/pen, use your five senses and start adding activities you've been missing out on to this list. Most even have clubs/groups to join (the friend aspect):

  • Smell - Nature: gardening, visiting parks/sights, hiking, jogging, cycling
  • Taste - Cooking, baking, ethnic dishes, salads, sides, desserts; Volunteer idea: soup kitchen
  • Sound - Musical, learning an instrument, dancing, attending concerts, friends of the symphony; Volunteer idea: join worship band at church
  • Touch - Games, board games, playing cards, chess/checkers, puzzles; Volunteer idea: senior center
  • Sight - Library, reading/book clubs, computers, classes, book sales, books, DVDs, audio; Volunteer idea: children's hour

How would you answer this question at your next friendly gathering:"So, what do you do for fun?"

Tip of the Day
Do you own a Bible? You'd be amazed at how many subjects, tips, suggestions, prayers, stories, etc are included in the pages. You can go online and purchase one, or any Christian church will be glad to offer one to you for free! 

"And now, dear...sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
Keep putting into practice all you learned...Then the God of peace will be with you" (Philippians 4:8-9 NLT).


Tuesday, September 9, 2025

Souls on Fire

Ready to catch your soul on fire?

There are many, many ways to move in and out of our world; to bring the positives back into our lives. But we'll need to limit it to just a few and build on that as we run into the next chapter with all the joy we deserve. One thing is certain: life never stands still. No, not for anyone. If this has been a year of mishaps, misgivings, and missed opportunities, it's time to set our "souls on fire!"   

There are five easy ways to get our momentum back! Ready? Just think of the word Grace as an acronym. Grace is simply receiving the gifts of favor and kindness from a loving God who believes us to be deserving of all of His blessings.  

Grateful thoughts - every single day brings enough to be thankful about to fill an ocean. Sunrises, lattes, children's laughter, our health and safety, friends, books, gardens, hugs, pets, music, God's creation, and most importantly, His promise of heaven for all eternity. (Psalm 105:1)

Refreshing efforts - along with that sunrise, if we get outdoors each day and breathe in and out, our health can't help but improve in amazing ways. Then we will naturally want to eat healthy and move our bodies, too. Our energy level will soar! Our outlook will change in remarkable ways. (Psalm 147:8)

Abiding attitudes - regaining our happiness is major for ourselves and those around us! We can choose to live in bitterness and an unforgiving environment, but we will never be happy. We can't have it both ways. Once mistakes are learned, our unhappy past has no purpose whatsoever. Today is all we are promised. Not tomorrow, not next week, nor next year. Today is the present. Live in it! (2 Thessalonians 3:16)

Calm temperaments - to regain a sense of who we are meant to be is to find out and practice ways to remain calm and composed. This is easier for some women than others. Only you know you. A common cause of staying upset all the time, full of anxiety, and living in depression is harboring and entertaining worries consistently. God never wants that for us! (Matthew 6:25-32)

Expressing love - "Let me count the ways!" Nothing will move us faster into God's will than spilling the very best of ourselves into the lives of others. Just a simple smile can do it. Laughter and a hug upon seeing a friend (without complaining about our lives) can fill both of us. Give love. Get love. (2 John 1:6)         

Tip of the Day
So, if we truly want a better life full of love, laughter, meaning, and purpose, it's up to us. There is no one else walking on the face of this earth who will do it for us. However, we most certainly have Someone on our side 24-7. Have you accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior? He's there, waiting. Using your own words, just let Him know you are ready to make that decision. 

"For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago" (Ephesians 2:10 NLT).